July 1, 2010
A Case of G20 Police Envy?
Ok, well maybe "controversy" is too strong a word - but dammit, they pissed me off!
I've lived in my house for 2 years. It's in a townhouse complex where we have assigned parking. But my house faces the street so most of the time I just park in front of my house. Sometimes I park facing west (the correct way), sometimes I park facing east (the incorrect way). It really depends on where I've come from.
For 2 straight years, parking has never been an issue. Until last Sunday morning.
Last Saturday when I arrived home I parked facing east. No big deal - like I said, I've done it hundreds of times. But when I woke up in the morning, I had a ticket for parking the wrong way!
For those of you who are self-righteous and follow every rule, yes, I was parked facing the wrong way, so yes I deserved the ticket. And yes I know that just because I've gotten away with it for 2 years doesn't mean I should be surprised that I did get ticketed. Besides, it's a relatively inexpensive ticket.
None of that is what I'm upset about.
What pisses me off is the cars that race down my street at all hours of the day! And it happens every single day without exception. I live in a neighbourhood that is home to a ton of children, and there's a high school just down the road. Yet I've seen cars blow right through the stop sign at the end of my street, and witnessed almost a half dozen serious close calls at the corner where another street feeds onto my street. One of these days there WILL be an accident at that corner. It's not a matter of "if" but "when".
We've called twice and asked the police to put a patrol car at that corner to slow down the traffic (and I know my next door neighbour has complained too). Their response on both occasions - "I'm sorry, we simply don't have the manpower".
Really?? So what you're telling me is you don't have the manpower to ticket speeders and in all likelihood, save a life or two. But at 4:00am on a Sunday morning, you have plenty of manpower to ticket cars that are parked the wrong way??
Is there something wrong with me that I don't understand this logic?
*sigh*
January 27, 2010
Has American Idol Jumped the Shark?
As I was watching the American Idol auditions tonight, I couldn't help but wonder if the show is still about finding the most talented singers hiding amongst everyday ordinary Americans, or if it has simply become a stage for finding the biggest, fattest, saddest sob stories in America and then jamming them down our throats?September 13, 2009
Father of the Year
Ok, so at first blush, this may not seem so shocking (or personal). But for those unfamiliar with the exploits of the Dumb Ass that is my future's ex, I shall enlighten you.
The Father of the Year (who shall from here on in be referred to as FOTY or dumb ass) already has 2 children that he has chosen not to see.Yep, you read that right. For reasons unbeknownst to me (or anyone else for that matter), after leaving his wife for another woman, he just decided one day to stop seeing his children. That was 4 years ago.
How does a man live with himself after walking out on his kids?? He'll tell anyone who will listen that his "bitch ex-wife" won't let him see his kids. But I can assure you dear readers, that that's a big steaming pile of monkey crap. He has never, not once, been denied access to his children. Even if the future Mrs. Meanie wanted to, as an advocate of Father's rights, I never would have allowed it.
Spreading his bile may make him feel better when facing his friends (like the bible-thumping hypocrite or the forever expanding Italian), but I can't help but wonder what goes through his little pea brain when he's on his own. When there's no one around to lie to, does he think about his kids?? About what he's done to them?? Does he think about them on their birthday's?? And does he feel guilty for leaving them Fatherless?
Well, they're not really Fatherless. They have me. And I don't toot my own horn very often, but as far as I'm concerned, they've upgraded. They may not call me "Dad" (a conversation I'm sure the future Mrs. Meanie and I will have soon), but I am "Dad" to them in most senses of the word. And come November 7th, I'll be "Dad" in EVERY sense of the word.
As a Father myself, I can't help but wonder how a man could possibly leave his children. More specifically, why did Dumb Ass abandon his kids?? I wish I knew. All I know is that he was pissed that he didn't get his way in court and hasn't seen the kids since. Is it nothing more than the mother of all hissy fits?? It's hard to think that someone can be that childish, but I really don't have any other explanation.And when he's holding that little girl, does it remind him that he already has a little girl that desperately needed a Father?? Not to mention a son. But not to worry, his two kids will be loved and taken care of. They will not go Fatherless - I'll do it. And I'll do it much better than he ever could have.
Any idiot can make a baby (FOTY is living proof of that), but it takes a man to be a Father!
September 3, 2009
M.A.D.D. - Meanies Against Drunk Driving
August 16, 2009
Michael Vick - The Most Hated Sports Figure Ever?

- The Eagles already have a couple of very good QB's in Donovan McNabb and Kevin Kolb.
- Whoever picked up Vick was going to be heavily criticized for allowing this monster a spot on their NFL roster. If he had signed with the Raiders - it wouldn't have surprised me. But the Eagles?? Didn't see that coming. Especially considering point #1.
did it to make money - the millions of dollars you get for being an NFL QB doesn't go nearly as far as it used to I suppose. With money on the line, dogs that performed poorly were either electrocuted, hanged, or drowned.Disgusted yet? Yeah, I thought you might be.
So here we are. After completing his sentence, Vick is out of prison and free to play football again (after he serves a 4 game suspension).
However the question everybody is asking is, should he be allowed to play? After all, his crime is so heinous, he shouldn't be allowed anywhere near an NFL stadium right?
In 2000, Baltimore Ravens linebacker Ray Lewis was indicted for murder and aggravated assault following a fight that broke out at a Superbowl party. He later pleaded guilty to the misdemeanor charge of obstruction of justice in exchange for his testimony against his two accomplices. Not only did we the adoring fans welcome him back with open arms, but he made the cover of the Madden 2005 video game.
Former Tennessee Titan and Dallas Cowboy Adam 'Pacman' Jones has had a litany of run-ins with the law including a shooting at a Las Vegas strip club that left one person paralyzed from the waist down. Jones pleaded no contest to conspiracy to commit disorderly conduct - quite a bit different than the two felony charges he was facing.
In 2008 Marvin Harrison was allegedly involved in a shooting outside a bar that he owns. While ballistics have confirmed the bullets in the shooting came from a gun owned by Harrison, conflicting eye witness reports have prevented investigators from making an arrest in the case.
On March 1st of this year, Cleveland Browns wide receiver Dante Stallworth killed a pedestrian with his car while he was driving under the influence. In April he was charged with second degree manslaughter.All of these players (with the exception of Stallworth) have come back to the NFL without nearly the controversy that has plagued Michael Vick.
August 3, 2009
Equality Isn't Always Equal.
And as a father of two girls, I'm very thankful and excited to know that the opportunities in store for my daughters are limitless!
But when it comes to equality, the one area that is grossly inequitable and still has a long way to go, is Family Law. But not for women, for men. That's right, when it comes to Family Law, it's a woman's world - men just happen to live in it.

The disparity begins immediately after conception. Once a women gets pregnant, she has all the control. If she wants to have the baby and the father doesn't - too bad. Whether he wants to have a baby or is ready to have a baby, it's her decision. Oh, and even if you - Papa - aren't interested in being a baby Daddy, sorry, you're on the hook for support.
And then there is custody. Custody in our society is horribly unfair. 90% of single Fathers have less than full custody of their children. Why? Are we not interested in being Dad's?? Nope, that's not it. It's because a judge (who I'm sure has a degree in child psychology and perhaps even ECE) decides what's in the "best interest" of the children. And due to archaic thinking, it's pretty much a God given right that Mom gets custody. But how can a judge decide what's in a child's best interest without ever meeting or spending time with Mom or Dad or the children who's lives he or she is about to rule on??
*sigh*
Sadly, as it is with Criminal Defence, the "best interest" of the children really boils down to how good your lawyer is.
And once your ex-wife has custody, you become nothing more than a glorified babysitter. When I was married, I never had to ask permission to take my kids to the park. But, if I were to just take my kids to the park now (without permission from her Royal WOPness) I could be charged with kidnapping!
My ex acts as if she's doing me a favour by allowing me to see OUR kids. Like they belong to her but I'm permitted to borrow them from time to time. Oh right, according to the judge, they do belong to her. It was in their best interest. Even though he's never met me. Or her. Or our kids.
Of course then there's the most contentious issue of all - Support.
In my humble opinion (and please remember, on MY blog, MY opinion is GOSPEL), support is a joke.
How much does a loaf of bread cost? Around $2.49? Sure. Does the price of a loaf of bread go up based on your income?? Nope. So why does the cost of raising a child go up based on your income?? For those of you not bright enough to follow my train of thought - why the hell does support go up when your income goes up??
The popular answer is, if Mom and Dad had stayed together then the children would have benefited from the raise in income. Well, a) I didn't stay with my wife, b) who says they don't benefit now, and c) this is really the dumbest argument I have ever heard! Seriously, why don't I benefit when my ex-wife's income goes up??
Sadly, much to the dismay of my avaricious ex-bride, my income has stayed relatively the same over the last 4 years. Sorry honey.
You want further examples of the unfair system men are subjected to?? Support is enforced while access isn't.
A man can have his wages garnished, or worse, have his drivers license suspended for not paying support. Now, I firmly believe that a Father should support his offspring, but seriously, who was the genius that decided that taking a man's drivers license away was a good way to enforce support??
And what recourse does Dad have if Mom doesn't want to honour the access agreement?? It happens all the time. And Mom can make up any excuse she wants not to send them - little Tommy has a sniffle, little Jane has a dance recital, little Stevie has dirt under his fingernail. The explanation for denied visitation can be legit or bogus, it doesn't matter, SHE has control and there is no way to enforce access.
And just to rub salt into the wounds, if Dad misses a payment or two, it doesn't matter - pay now or pay later, even if the court needs to garnishee your wages, YOU WILL PAY. However, if Mom denies access once, twice, or continually, well, sorry buddy - even if you go back to court, there's no such thing as arrears for visitation. A visit missed is a visit lost - forever!
The whole Family Law system is so biased against men it's disgusting. It's based on a stereotype that women make better parents than men. Am I bitter?? You bet I'm bitter. If the shoe were on the other foot, you would be too. Imagine if the custody of your drivers license was decided based on the stereotype that men drive better than women. Based on the ruling of a judge who has never ridden in a car with you, your ex-spouse now controls when you can drive, and when you can't.
Equality?? Pfft! We've got such a long way to go and it seems as if no one is interested in doing anything about it.
*sigh*
Feel free to leave a comment as I'd love to hear your thoughts on the subject.
Meantime, here are some stats for you to chew on.
90% of fathers have less than full custody of their children.
37.9% of fathers have no access/visitation rights. (Source: p.6, col.II, para. 6, lines 4 & 5, Census Bureau P-60, #173, Sept 1991.)
"40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the non-custodial father's visitation on at least one occasion, to punish the ex-spouse." (Source: p. 449, col. II, lines 3-6, (citing Fulton) Frequency of visitation by Divorced Fathers; Differences in Reports by Fathers and Mothers. Sanford Braver et al, Am. J. of Orthopsychiatry, 1991.)
"Overall, approximately 50% of mothers "see no value in the father`s continued contact with his children...." (Source: Surviving the Breakup, Joan Kelly & Judith Wallerstein, p. 125)
Only 11% of mothers value their husband's input when it comes to handling problems with their kids. Teachers & doctors rated 45%, and close friends & relatives rated 16%.(Source: EDK Associates survey of 500 women for Redbook Magazine. Redbook, November 1994, p. 36)
"The former spouse (mother) was the greatest obstacle to having more frequent contact with the children." (Source: Increasing our understanding of fathers who have infrequent contact with their children, James Dudley, Family Relations, Vol. 4, p. 281, July 1991.)
"A clear majority (70%) of fathers felt that they had too little time with their children." (Source: Visitation and the Noncustodial Father, Mary Ann Kock & Carol Lowery, Journal of Divorce, Vol. 8, No. 2, p. 54, Winter 1984.)
"Very few of the children were satisfied with the amount of contact with their fathers, after divorce." (Source: Visitation and the Noncustodial Father, Koch & Lowery, Journal of Divorce and Remarriage, Vol. 8, No. 2, p. 50, Winter 1984.)
"Feelings of anger towards their former spouses hindered effective involvement on the part of fathers; angry mothers would sometimes sabotage father's efforts to visit their children." (Source: Ahrons and Miller, Am. Journal of Orthopsychiatry, Vol. 63. p. 442, July `93.)
"Mothers may prevent visits to retaliate against fathers for problems in their marital or post-marital relationship." (Source: Seltzer, Shaeffer & Charing, Journal of Marriage & the Family, Vol. 51, p. 1015, November 1989.)
In a study: "Visitational Interference - A National Study" by Ms. J Annette Vanini, M.S.W. and Edward Nichols, M.S.W., it was found that 77% of non-custodial fathers are NOT able to "visit" their children, as ordered by the court, as a result of "visitation interference" perpetuated by the custodial parent. In other words, non-compliance with court ordered visitation is three times the problem of non-compliance with court ordered child support and impacts the children of divorce even more. Originally published Sept. 1992
Information from multiple sources shows that only 10% of all noncustodial fathers fit the "deadbeat dad" category: 90% of the fathers with joint custody paid the support due. Fathers with visitation rights pay 79.1%; and 44.5% of those with NO visitation rights still financially support their children. (Source: Census Bureau report. Series P-23, No. 173).
Additionally, of those not paying support, 66% are not doing so because they lack the financial resources to pay (Source: GAO report: GAO/HRD-92-39 FS).
The Poverty Studies Institute at the University of Wisconsin, Madison, discovered in 1993 that 52% of fathers who owe child support earn less than $6,155 per year.
66% of single mothers work less than full time while only 10% of fathers fall into this category. In addition, almost 47% of non-custodial mothers default on support compared with the 27% of fathers who default. (Source: Garansky and Meyer, DHHS Technical Analysis Paper No. 42, 1991).
January 20, 2009
Abomination of Obama-Nation?
Today I watched a dream become reality. Today I watched along with the rest of the world as Barack Obama become the first black President of the United States of America. As I was listening to call in shows on the radio today, and reading message boards, I was shocked and disgusted by some of the comments! While most seemed to be very complimentary of the new American President, the same cannot be said for their opinion of the people who elected him.
As long as sixty years ago, when I first started to read newspapers, I read of floods on the Yellow River and the Yangtse. Well, Who rushed in with men and money to help? The Americans did, that's who.
They have helped control floods on the Nile, the Amazon, the Ganges and the Niger. Today, the rich bottom land of the Mississippi is under water and no foreign land has sent a dollar to help. Germany, Japan and, to a lesser extent, Britain and Italy, were lifted out of the debris of war by the Americans who poured in billions of dollars and forgave other billions in debts. None of those countries is today paying even the interest on its remaining debts to the United States.
When the franc was in danger of collapsing in 1956, it was the Americans who propped it up and their reward was to be insulted and swindled on the streets of Paris. And I was there. I saw that.
When distant cities are hit by earthquakes, it is the United States that hurries into help... Managua Nicaragua is one of the most recent examples. So far this spring, 59 American communities have been flattened by tornadoes. Nobody has helped.
The Marshall Plan... the Truman Policy... all pumped billions upon billions of dollars into discouraged countries. And now, newspapers in those countries are writing about the decadent war-mongering Americans.
I'd like to see one of those countries that is gloating over the erosion of the United States dollar build its own airplanes.
Come on... let's hear it! Does any other country in the world have a plane to equal the Boeing Jumbo Jet, the Lockheed Tristar or the Douglas 10? If so, why don't they fly them? Why do all international lines except Russia fly American planes? Why does no other land on earth even consider putting a man or a woman on the moon?
You talk about Japanese technocracy and you get radios. You talk about German technocracy and you get automobiles. You talk about American technocracy and you find men on the moon, not once, but several times ... and safely home again. You talk about scandals and the Americans put theirs right in the store window for everybody to look at. Even the draft dodgers are not pursued and hounded. They are right here on our streets in Toronto, most of them... unless they are breaking Canadian laws... are getting American dollars from Ma and Pa at home to spend here.
When the Americans get out of this bind... as they will... who could blame them if they said 'the hell with the rest of the world'. Let someone else buy the bonds, let someone else build or repair foreign dams or design foreign buildings that won't shake apart in earthquakes.
When the railways of France, Germany and India were breaking down through age, it was the Americans who rebuilt them. When the Pennsylvania Railroad and the New York Central went broke, nobody loaned them an old caboose. Both of them are still broke. I can name to you 5,000 times when the Americans raced to the help of other people in trouble.
Can you name to me even one time when someone else raced to the Americans in trouble? I don't think there was outside help even during the San Francisco earthquake.
Our neighbours have faced it alone and I am one Canadian who is damned tired of hearing them kicked around. They will come out of this thing with their flag high. And when they do, they are entitled to thumb their noses at the lands that are gloating over their present troubles.
I hope Canada is not one of these. But there are many smug, self-righteous Canadians. And finally, the American Red Cross was told at its 48th Annual meeting in New Orleans this morning that it was broke.
This year's disasters... with the year less than half-over... has taken it all and nobody... but nobody... has helped.
January 18, 2009
Mark Mcgwire - Foiled Again!
Last week Rickey Henderson and Jim Rice were elected for induction into the Baseball Hall of Fame. Being elected to Cooperstown is the highest accolade you can bestow upon a ball player and Henderson, who is widely considered the greatest lead off hitter in the history of the game, was voted in to the Hall in his first year of eligibility. Ironically Rice was voted in in his last year of eligibility! Henderson, absolutely deserves to be there. Rice? He's borderline, but I think he deserves the honour.In 1994, the owners did the unthinkable and cancelled the World Series! It was unprecedented. Not even World Wars I or II had managed to shut down baseball's postseason. When Major League Baseball resumed in 1995, baseball fans were bitter. And they displayed that bitterness by staying away from the game. They weren't filling the stadiums, and they weren't watching on TV. MLB was floundering.
In 1998 Big Mac and Slammin' Sammy were chasing Roger Maris' homerun record which had stood for 37 years! It is arguably the most prestigious record in all of sports, and for one magical summer, these two extraordinary men captured the hearts of a nation as they chased down that elusive record set at 61! Mcgwire and Sosa pushed each other all season long, so it seemed somewhat appropriate that the Cardinals were playing the Cubs when Big Mac smacked number 62 over the left field wall at Busch Stadium in St. Louis.
It's been said that Rickey Henderson was elected to the Hall as much for his stolen base records as anything else. If this is true, are Mcgwire's 70 homers in 98' not more important than Henderson's 130 stolen bases in 1982? That summer, Mcgwire and Sosa single handedly revived baseball! As far as I'm concerned, that should count for something, and should be recognized.
So just why won't Big Mac get into Cooperstown. Depending on which sportswriter you ask, you'll get a different answer.The most common and obvious answer is performance enhancing drugs. However, regardless of what you, me or any sportswriter might think, Mcgwire has never admitted to using any performance enhancing drugs. I thought in the United States citizens were "innocent until proven guilty"? That being said, even if he did use an illegal substance, baseball had no drug policy in place when Big Mac was playing and therefore it shouldn't be held against him anyway.
The second argument you'll hear is that he is a one dimensional player and his numbers just aren't good enough for the Hall. Are you kidding me? Of all the hitters inducted into the Hall since 2003, only Wade Boggs and Rickey Henderson have a higher career on base percentage than Mcgwire. And that includes players like Cal Ripken, Tony Gwynn, Ryne Sandberg, Paul Molitor, Gary Carter, Eddie Murray and Jim Rice.
But let's address the issue of numbers and compare Rice who got in, to Mcgwire who didn't.
Rice clearly leads in batting average (.298 vs .263), hits (2452 vs. 1626) and triples (79 vs. 6). They have very similar totals for runs, RBI's and extra base hits (1249/1451/834 for Rice vs. 1167/1414/841 for Mcgwire). Mcgwire however dominates in slugging percentage (.588 vs .502), on base percentage (.394 vs. 352), walks (1317 vs 670), and of course Home Runs (583 vs 382).
Mcgwire was a 12 time all-star (Rice made the team 8 times), was a 3 time Silver Slugger (Rice won the honour twice), won a gold glove (which Rice was never able to do), and perhaps most importantly won a World Series in 1989. Rice was never able to accomplish this goal. Mcgwire also has the lowest Homerun per at bat ratio (10.61) in MLB History!!
The numbers speak for themselves. If they warrant induction for Rice, then Mcgwire deserves to be in too. However, after receiving only 128 votes in each of his first two years of eligibility (for a total of approximately 23% of the vote where 75% is needed for induction), and 118 votes this year, it is unlikely that he will ever get into the Hall.
Personally, I think there has to be a fundamental change in the way players, coaches and managers are elected to the Hall. Giving the sportswriters all the power to decide who gets in is inexplicable to me. I do think they should have a vote, but so should former players and managers, and even the fans. Whatever the answer is, there has to be a better system than the one that's in place - it's incomprehensible to me that Mcgwire can be kept out of the Hall given his contributions to the game. Any writer that left him off the ballot should be ashamed of themselves.

